We are pedophiles against adult-child sexual contact and online child exploitation. We support others like us.
What brings you here?
Yes, it’s safe. You’re not admitting anything by being here. This site doesn’t violate any laws and is visited by journalists, researchers, the curious, and friends and family of pedophiles — as well as pedophiles themselves.
Don’t panic. You are a pedophile, but it’s only a part of who you are. You are not alone. There are a lot of people like you who have this attraction and still go on to live satisfying lives and never try to seek sexual activity with a child.
We get a lot of emails from worried people who think they are pedophiles but aren’t. We also get some from people who are looking to find reasons they may not be pedophiles, even though they are.
If you’re unsure about yourself, read our guidance, based on hundreds of conversations with people we’ve met in our community or who have approached us.
Firstly, thank you for coming to this website to find out more. Whether this news has made you panic or made you thoughtful, we can hopefully give you some perspective on the secret you now know.
You’re brave. Most people in your situation find it hard to reach out for more information. Whether you’re sure or not that you are a pedophile, there are ways you can find support.
The VirPed forum is for adults, but we can offer you some thoughts here on our website and point you to places where there is more information and support.
There is a range of ways that pedophiles deal with their attraction and seek sexual outlets. Some of these are more problematic than others. Some have no harmful effects; some can get unhealthy; quite a few are illegal. If you’re worried about doing something wrong, find some more guidance in this section.
Our panel of VirPed forum members have all written on social media sites in the past about their life experiences and answered questions from the curious. If you ask a question here we will pass it on to them and share their answers on this page.
Your client admits to a sexual attraction to children. What do you do?
There are many pedophiles. We do not choose to be attracted to children, and we cannot make that attraction go away.
Virtuous doesn’t mean we think we’re better than the average person, just that we’re not worse. We have been dealt a hand by life: we do not choose to be attracted to children, and we cannot make that attraction go away, but we can resist any intention of abusing children sexually.
There are many of us, but few people know we exist.
Virtuous Pedophiles, the grassroots organization behind this website, was founded in 2012 by Nick Devin and Ethan Edwards. We were the first peer-support organization for pedophiles to be clear that we are against sexual contact between adults and children, now and in the future.
For over a decade, thousands of pedophiles, their families and their friends have reached out to us for support. We have assisted with academic research and explained to the outside world that pedophile is not a synonym for abuser or criminal.