This young person has had the courage to talk to you about their pedophilia. We want to applaud you. You have created the right atmosphere and relationship for them to be open about such a serious, taboo topic.
It is now important to take a deep breath and think about your next steps. You know your child. You will have a feeling about whether they are a danger to others. If they fear they are, they will likely say so.
This will be a stressful time for them. Whatever the reason they have told you now, they will hope to be told that someone understands and wants to be there for them. Tell them they are not alone. They will also have fears about your possible reaction.
Many pedophiles who come out to a relative report that after the initial conversation, there are no further ones. We think it is important to create space and time where the conversation can continue.
This young person may have contact or a relationship with younger children, for example siblings, cousins or friends.
You don’t have to jump to conclusions about what these relationships mean, but you can ask questions about them. Consider how to have this conversation in an open-ended way. If you start the conversation with suspicion or even accusations, you could lose a lot of the trust that has been placed in you.
A valuable step could be to help them find someone to talk to - either a professional or peer support. However, they need to weigh up the risks they face - especially if they are a minor - of approaching the wrong person, or making the wrong friends online. We can help by giving you places to look for professionals who understand this subject. Or you can check our our pages for pedophiles 18 and over or about minors who are pedophiles
If your situation is not covered well enough here, and you need more personalized answers then you can email us with questions at [email protected] or to ask to join our forum for friends and family , which sits alongside and overlaps with our main forum for adult pedophiles themselves.
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