Firstly, thank you for coming to this website to find out more. Whether this news has made you panic or made you thoughtful, hopefully we can give you some perspective on the secret you now know.
There are many ways people find out someone they know is a pedophile.
Sometimes they are told by the person; sometimes they find out; sometimes they suspect but cannot be sure.
Each situation is unique. Your best next step will depend on who the person is, how you found out, what your relationship is with this person, your own feelings and who else is involved.
Knowing, or strongly suspecting that someone you know is a pedophile can feel dangerous. It may feel scary. It may feel like a big responsibility. However, many people before you have been through this. Many eventually feel glad that the secret was not kept forever.
We have split our advice across a series of different situations. These situations are based on the many emails we have received since 2012 from friends and family of pedophiles and advice we have received from professionals. We hope to add more different situations over time.
If your situation is not covered well enough here, and you need more personalized answers then you can email us with questions or to ask to joing our forum for friends and family
, which sits alongside and overlaps with our main forum for pedophiles themselves.
How did you find out that someone you know is a non-offending pedophile?
Click the button below to find different cases where someone told you they’re a non-offending pedophile.
Click the button below to find different cases where you figured out that someone is a non-offending pedophile.
Click the button below to find different cases where someone you know is in trouble over illegal behavior, that might be related to an attraction to children.
Our forum is a peer-support community. We help pedophiles anonymously and honestly discuss their experiences and feelings. We don’t allow image sharing, justification of adult-child sexual contact or encouragement of illegal behavior. Moderators enforce these rules. All posts are written in English.