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There are many virtuous pedophiles in the world. You probably know a few in your regular life. Because we mostly don’t tell anyone we are pedophiles, it’s difficult for people to ask us the questions they are curious about.

In the past we have tried to explain our situation via social media, but gradually social prejudice and mass reporting have made it impossible for regular members of the public to find us this way.

Our panel of VirPed forum members have all written on social media sites in the past about their life experiences and answered questions from the curious. If you ask a question here we will pass it on to them and share their answers on this page.

We don’t accept abusive or gotcha questions, and we can’t answer all of the questions we receive. We also can’t tell you whether you, personally, are a pedophile or not.


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Questions we’re currently answering


Do you think that there is a trauma in your life that might be connected with your condition? if not, when and how do you think it started?

from “Jay”; answers coming on 23 June 2024


What definitively made you aware that your pedophilia was pedophilia and not POCD or something else? If you have experienced denial, what made you realise it?

from “Grace”; answers coming on 30 June 2024



Questions with answers


Do you have any other stigmatized paraphilia/kink (i.e. attraction to animals, BDSM)? If so, how have they/do they interact, and do you think having those other interests and/or participating in community with others of those interests has helped or harmed you in your journey with your pedophilia?

from “Chanel”; answers published on 16 June 2024

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Opinion on AAM(Adult-Attracted Minor)?

from “y”; answers published on 09 June 2024

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Is it illegal, anywhere in the world, to be a non offending and non violent pedophile?

from “Wai me”; answers published on 02 June 2024

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Do you believe that forums that are pro-contact normalize paedophilia in a way that could make someone more likely to act on their attraction? Or is acting on fantasies something that most MAP would never consider, regardless of normalization?

from “Mira”; answers published on 26 May 2024

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from “Mira”; answers published on 12 May 2024

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Are you around kids that you’re attracted to? Do you think it’s ok for you to be around kids that you fantasize about? I ask this in a non-judgemental way, so let me explain with an exemple: I am a grown woman and I wouldn’t like to be around someone that fantasizes about me unless that person is my partner, even if I’m 100% certain that they won’t abuse me, and I suppose I’d be extra uncomfortable if I had no idea that a certain person is fantasizing about me and I found out later. How do you navigate those kinds of situations? Do you outright avoid minors that you’re attracted to?

from “Mira”; answers published on 05 May 2024

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If our society, for whatever reasons, changed over time into accepting adult-child sexual and romantic relationships, would you still be opposed to sexual contact with children? I guess what I’m asking is: where does your [virtue] come from? Fear of judgement and punishment? Fear of hurting a kid for the rest of their lives?

from “Journalist”; answers published on 28 April 2024

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What do you think about including information on MAPs in public school health classes? Do you think such teaching should start in middle or high school? How could you get information on therapy to these kids, confidentially?

from “Alison”; answers published on 21 April 2024

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If you had the opportunity to receive therapy with no risks whatsoever, what qualities would make for the ideal therapist? Additionally, for those who already have a therapist or want one, what would your treatment goals be?

from “K”; answers published on 14 April 2024

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If you were able to clear up one misconception about pedophilia, or any other form of attraction to minors, what would it be? Additionally, how has that misconception affected you?

from “K”; answers published on 07 April 2024

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How do you guys feel about Chris Hansen’s show, as well as people who record encounters with people who they claim were having conversations with underage people? Do you support or oppose recording confrontations with people who try meeting up with minors?

from “Andrew Gross”; answers published on 31 March 2024

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Why children? Why not people your age?

from “Pluh”; answers published on 24 March 2024

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Given the massive stigma pedophilia has across all social media, and the reporting laws present in many countries, many pedophiles have to choose whether to risk outing themselves or attempting to cope on their own. While I understand there is no one-size-fits-all solution, what are some of the coping mechanisms that have worked for you? Can one approach this issue like one would approach an addiction (to, say, alcohol and nicotine)?

from “Brazillian sympathizer”; answers published on 17 March 2024

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How many paedophiles struggle with suicidal ideation? Have any of you struggled with it? How great did these suicidal feelings become?

from “Leonard”; answers published on 10 March 2024

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What are your opinions on POCD? Did you first think it was POCD if you were in denial about being a pedophile? What made you think it wasn’t POCD? Can someone have POCD and be a pedophile at the same time?

from “Mexican Girl”; answers published on 03 March 2024

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How has being part of Virped or any other pedophile based support group helped you out, if at all?

from “Anonymous YouTuber”; answers published on 25 February 2024

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Do pedophiles have children? What is that like? [If you don’t have children, do you want to have? Why/why not?]

from “Swedish podcaster”; answers published on 18 February 2024

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Are you out to your families about it? If so, what is their reaction? [If not, why?]

from “Anonymous YouTuber”; answers published on 11 February 2024

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from “Arto”; answers published on 4 February 2024

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What should pedophilia be labeled as? Should we call it a sexual preference or mental disorder? Anything in between or something else entirely?

from “Swedish podcaster”; answers published on 28 January 2024

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Do pedophiles have regular relationships?

from “Swedish podcaster”; answers published on 22 January 2024

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Many adults with paedophilic orientation report experiencing sexual desire and emotional bonding towards children. Presumably, the sexual desire diminishes or vanishes once the child ages or undergoes puberty. My curiosity lies in the fate of the emotional bond in this context. How long does the emotional bonding endure after that? In non-paedophilic individuals, when lust is gone, one still observes a relatively consistent physical appearance in their love object, which helps in retaining the memories of erotic feelings. I suppose for paedophilic individuals, this experience might be different, as within a brief span, the minor transforms into someone markedly dissimilar and sometimes hardly recognizable, both physically and character-wise. What does that emotional journey look like?

from “Curious girl”; answers published on 15 January 2024

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When did you decide to talk to someone? Who did you talk to?

from “Two Italian Journalists”; answers published on 8 January 2024

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What was your initial reaction upon discovering that you were in fact attracted to minors? Did you simply accept it or was there some form of internal wrestling?

from “Anonymous YouTuber”; answers published 1 January 2024

Read 7 answers